Please stop running your life on grit and adrenaline!
Performance & life design coaching
for creatives, techies and other curious overthinkers (ADHDers included)
When your mind races ahead,
but your life feels like it’s lagging behind:
You care deeply.
People admire how much you can juggle.
You’re a walking idea machine.
But here’s the part you don’t say out loud:
✦ You’re too busy to slow down, but too tired to keep up.
✦ The work that once lit you up now feels like pressure.
✦ ‘I’ll do it later’ turns into ‘3 months later’.
✦ Your mind never stops, but your energy does…
You’ve built a successful life on grit and adrenaline, but now that strategy is running on fumes.
And sometimes… this quiet question keeps tugging at you:
Is this really how I want to live?
What if you didn’t have to push harder to thrive?
Let’s build a practical life rhythm that is invigorating and works with your brain, so you can turn overwhelm into momentum, without the burnout.
Why Life by Design works
✦ Insights you can trust
With a MSc in positive organizational psychology and a certification in solution-focused coaching, I can help you dismantle the hustle mindset and design environments and habits that support your energy rather than draining it. No fluff, all evidence-based.
✦ Nervous system integration
The body is often the missing piece for people who are brilliant at solving problems in their head, but can't think their way out of feeling wired. As a certified yoga teacher and somatic practitioner, I help you physically drop the tension you carry and then connect with your real needs and wishes. Learn in real time how to make decisions from a settled state instead of a clenched one.
✦ Flexible cadence
Do you need frequent check-ins to stay on track? Or maybe more space before you are ready to meet again and find new growth edges? You have total control over when to book the next 50-minute session on your Life by Design pass (1, 5 or 10 sessions). After all, life doesn't happen in neat intervals.
✦ Someone who gets it
Having enjoyed 6 years in global tech recruitment, I know how fast-paced, high-demand environments shape your attention. I also experienced a severe 3-year burnout after it, which gave me no choice but to redesign my true life’s balance and priorities. I also have ADHD, so you know I can help you set up creative systems that hold up when life gets busy.
What our coaching sessions look like
Drop in
We start by shifting out of mid-day reactivity. A quick somatic or breath check-in pulls you out of head-spin mode, so your mind and body can settle into the present moment, ready to think clearly.
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Name the friction
We isolate and clarify the exact pressure point sitting on your chest today — whether it's an overflowing mental catalog, an exhausting boundary line, a decision you’ve been spinning on for weeks or the anticipation of a major life transition. Then, we focus on where you are today and the future you want to build toward.
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Reclaim your power
You are the expert on your life. I merely help you navigate the terrain. Your own wisdom, capacity for wonder and sense of self are central to our work. Instead of spending weeks dissecting why you’re overwhelmed, we find the internal resources, past wins and personal strengths you already hold, so we can get to your destination. We treat every outcome (even the ones that don't go as planned) as valuable data.
Design your next step
Ultimately, we align your daily actions with what actually matters to you. You walk away ready to test in the wild a new impactful pivot around your own energy, values or rhythms. One manageable step in front of the other, tailored to how your brain works. No generic productivity rules, rigid advice or idealized routines here. We translate insights into action.
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Choose your commitment
1-SESSION PASS
The clarity reset
Map an active pressure point, clear immediate decision fatigue and get unstuck.
1 × 50 min
€195 *
5-SESSION PASS
The life design sprint
Navigate a specific milestone, set rock-solid boundaries or redesign your daily rhythms.
5 × 50 min
Plus:
- direct voice/text support
€795 *— save €330
Valid for 6 months
10-SESSION PASS
The life architecture
Move from reactive fire-fighting to internal alignment, in our most immersive partnership.
10 × 50 min
Plus:
- priority voice/text support
- somatic micro-reset audios
€1450 *
Valid for 6 months
* Many clients use their company Learning & Development (L&D), wellbeing or personal growth budgets to cover this program. Additionally, the program qualifies for several company subsidies.
* The prices of out-of-pocket payments include 21% VAT. B2B, The prices exclude 21% VAT.
* Multi-session passes include voice and message access via WhatsApp — for real-time boundary checks, quick decision resets or momentum check-ins when life happens in real time. Because overwhelm and decision fatigue can’t always wait for your next appointment. Monitored M-Th; replies within 12 business hours for the 10-session pass and 24 business hours for the 5-session pass.
* If you live in a country where the exchange rate differs significantly from the Netherlands, please reach out for custom pricing.
You know you’re capable of more. Not more effort,
but more alignment, more joy, more room to breathe.
P.S. If your brain is telling you to bookmark this tab and look at it later… go ahead and book the call now. It’s the easiest way to break the avoidance cycle today.
Topics we can make progress on*:
Unburden
Stress management &
nervous system regulation
Manage stress & burnout
Set boundaries without guilt
Rest before burnout hits
Lighten your mental load
Navigate energy dips & creative waves
Let go of comparison pressure
Regain clarity
Focus systems & executive function
Simplify overwhelming priorities
Break perfectionism & procrastination cycles
Stay focused when it matters
Overthink less, do more
No more constant second-guessing
Live with ease
Consistent follow through & execution
Trust your own follow-through again
Finish what you start
Turn ideas into reality
Build simple, lasting systems
Stay consistent without self-betrayal or burnout
Make space for what excites you
* And yes, we’ll even tackle that one thing you’ve been avoiding. (You know the one. It’s fine. We’ll go gently.)
What clients say
Still in doubt?
(Frequently asked questions)
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Think of this call as a judgment-free conversation, to explore what you’re hoping to unlock and see if I can be of help in you getting to where you want to go.
Feel free to bring any questions that help you decide.
By the end, you’ll know whether my approach feels like the right fit. Either way, we’ll make sure you leave the call with new insights to help you along the way.
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Yourself, exactly as you are that day, and an idea of what you’d like to be different in your life moving forward.
You don’t need to bring a detailed history of everything that’s ever gone wrong. In our first session, we will spend a little bit of time looking at where you are now, but most of our energy will go toward defining your preferred future.
And a notebook, if you like capturing insights.
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Absolutely not. I see coaching as a temporary partnership for problem solving and skill building.
You don't need to endlessly overanalyze the problem or flip your whole life upside down to take meaningful steps toward your goals. If you already feel the pressure, piling on even more of it is the last thing you need!
Instead, we work on bringing about the most relief, clarity and momentum — one small, practical step at a time. We look for the smallest domino that will knock over the rest. Like finding the moments where things are going even 5% better and doing more of that.
Many clients with a clear goal feel a clear and sustainable shift in just 5 sessions.
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That is okay. Actually, it’s an exciting place to start! You don’t need a perfectly defined goal. Sometimes, people come to me only knowing what they don’t want: less stress, less overthinking, less friction in their week. Wherever you are, we start there.
You just need the willingness to take the first step and see what happens. Clarity comes when we use curiosity as our compass, look at what is already working in your life, even in a small way, and use those clues to figure out what small step you want to take next.
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Then you’re in the right place. Most mainstream advice is built on a one-size-fits-all framework that ignores your unique nervous system and daily realities. They expect you to force your life into their system and, when that creates friction, you’re left feeling like you are the problem. (You are not!)
Here, we look at your life as it actually is, find your hidden strengths and resources and build a bespoke strategy around your unique wiring and natural energy flows. It’s about making the system work for you, not the other way around.
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While a standard conversation with someone you know can be great for venting or getting advice, this type of coaching is entirely different in 3 ways:
1) Rather than staying stuck looping in the details of a problem or dissecting the past, we acknowledge where you are and then point the conversation toward where you want to go.
2) I won’t tell you what I would do – or what you should do, for that matter. Instead, I help you uncover your own strengths and design your own strategies that actually fit your unique wiring.
3) You maye leave our session feeling lighter, but you especially leave prepared. With a concrete, low-barrier next step to test out in real life before our next session.
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Curiosity is where all good things start. Reach out directly via the Contact page or send me an email at contact@flow-ahead.com. I reply to all emails.
The first step is often the most important design choice you'll make.